In the past sixty years I have witnessed many changes in our
society that would have startled my parents. The baby boomers have grown up
looking at life from a very different perspective and their children have gone
far beyond them.
When I was a boy it was unheard of for blacks and whites to
be married and yet today almost ten percent of weddings are mixed race of many
varieties. Indeed some of the brides and
grooms are children of mixed race marriages. There were some states that outlawed
such weddings. There were many arguments that it would ruin the sanctity of
marriage to allow it. Now no state has such restrictions. In my church there
are mixed race couples with beautiful children and no one thinks anything about
it. We have a new normal for our society.
Today the argument is about same sex marriages and there are
already a lot of them as one state after another have made it legal. The older
generation rails against it but the under 40 group thinks it is the most
natural thing. That group is not far from taking over the political arena. Our
culture is evolving to a more open and more loving accepting society.
Some of us older generations are having a difficult time
adjusting to this sweeping change. As with the mixed race time people are
calling for laws for marriage to be only for one man and one woman. It calls
into question the purpose of marriage. Marriages in the past were often
arranged by the fathers and were for providing legal heirs. In the early days
of America
some states required that a man own property before he could take a wife.
If marriage is only to provide for the next generation what
does that say for couples who do not wish to have children or can not have
children? If marriage is to provide for stable family units would that not
include same gender couples? The debate
is on but the direction of change in society has already been set and like it
or not there is no turning it back.
I ponder the question that if the marriage of a black woman
and a white man does not affect my marriage, will marriage between two women
affects it?