Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Apology weakness or strength?

I like watching the CBS TV show NCIS. I guess it is the US Navy sailor in me that enjoys that show. It is a well done show though a bit sappy at times, but I kind of like that too as I did with Star Trek.

On the show special agent Gibbs has a rule that one should never apologize as he sees it as a sign of weakness. I disagree! I think it takes a strong person to apologize. It takes someone who cares about integrity and value in their relationships. Apologizing does not always indicate that you are wrong and the other person is correct. It may indicate that you recognize hurt feelings and perhaps it was the way something was said or done that caused it. It often means that you value your relationships more than your ego.

When I see that I have made an error, and I make my share of them, I do not mind apologizing. I see it as a desire to make a relationship right again.  I feel the same about accepting the other person’s apology to restore a relationship after a disruption. Do you value  your relationships enough to be strong and offer an apology?


  1. Apologies: Very necessary and shows kindness.

  2. Indeed often very necessary and all too often not given.